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My sister

My Sister and I are four years and one day apart. She is the oldest of the two. It was the plan for me to arrive on her birthday, I showed up the day before. My sister and I have always had a strong bond. She often hid her mistakes from the world, but never from me, she was my guide to understanding many of life’s twists and turns. My sister continues to be there to guide me through times of stress and confusion, comfort me through times of sadness and grief, and laugh with me as we continue this journey called life. (Picture above: Left: Me, Right: My Sister)

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Dad and Mom

My parents are the originals. They married over fifty years ago, had two children, and now have six grandchildren and four great-grandchildren. My parents showed their love and affection in very different ways, my mother being an introvert and my father is more of the family extrovert.

My Mom:

My mom loved, nurtured and cared about me by taking care of me. When I say taking care of me, I feel there may need to be some explanation; mom would make sure we ate breakfast, lunch, and dinner every day and a bedtime snack. You had three different sets of clothes clean, folded and ready for play, school, or church. After your bath each night my mom would sit and roll your hair on sponge rollers and get up each morning to fix it, so you looked perfect before walking out the door even to play.  My mom showed her love in a massive way through all the things she did for me everyday. She opted to give up having a career to give all she had to give herself to her family.

My Dad:

There are not many days of my life I cannot remember my dad not getting up and going to work. He worked for General Motors in their Kettering Ohio factory. My dad started as a janitor and worked his way up to a machine operator. He instilled in me a work ethic that is powerful. My childhood memories of my dad is a playful, loud, silly, but protective man running about the house and stopping just for a moment to bang a few unknown bars on the piano saying “great balls of fire whoo.” This man celebrated every grade above an “F” which I never understood until I had my children and entered into education. I often thought he might have done it to make my mom crazy, but in the end, it encouraged me to continue trying no matter what the grade was as long as it was passing.

My parents are both still living and from childhood till now have never left, hung up a telephone, or even ended a text with out an I love you.

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Aunt Elaine

My Aunt Elaine was my mom’s sister. I do not remember a time she was not an active part of my life. Aunt Laine had one son closer to the age of my sister. I remember my aunt working and even owning her own business for a time. My aunt was the person who taught me about personal self-awareness and how young ladies should stand, walk, hold their shoulders back and smile politely in a public setting with a courteous hello. My aunt Lain always gave positive advice with a twist of humor. She was and still is a woman that could laugh at things that happen taught me that as long as I am here to experience life, life is good.

 

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My Granny surrounded by my mom and aunts

My Granny (Center of Picture) was born in Hazard Ky. She was married and gave birth to ten children two did not survive infancy (Glinda & Andra). She lost another son (Tate) to a car accident when he was 21 years old. Of her remaining children, she had three boys and four girls. After divorcing my papaw, my granny left Kentucky with her three youngest children and moved to Ohio to build a better life. She enrolled in college and obtained her nursing degree as a single mother.
The way my granny cared, nurtured and loved me was sitting with me and telling me stories about our family and lineage. She taught me how to stand behind my children and love them through any situation. She showed me by example that I can stand as a woman and excel personally as well as professionally.

 

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Multiple Avenues of Early Learning

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Meeting children at their developmental level often requires understanding how each individual child learns. Understanding children learn in their own unique individual way reduces the pressure of attempting to teach blanket lessons to a group of children. Assessments are valuable tools in determining where each child is currently and where their developmental weakness and strengths are. This enables teachers to plan lessons for structured academic growth and development in these areas.

 

Saying Good Bye- Adjourning when the Project is Complete

Saying Good Bye

How to say goodbye when the project is over? Whether the project lasts several weeks or months working towards a common goal with the same group of people and seeing it through to completion builds strong bonds. Team members will work through meeting, acceptance, effective problem solving and reaching the final goal (Anudi, 2010). As the team communicates, plans, and reexamines stages and steps they will take to complete the project they often do not think about how they will wrap it all up.

It is up to the people working in the group to determine if the group will be high or low preforming. I have been involved in both high-preforming and low-preforming groups both in my professional and academic careers. I must say that both the high and low performing groups were difficult for me to leave. With both groups, I had created bonds with people that were like-minded and working towards the goal. Although in the low performing group there were more difficult times there were also successes, and those seemed to mean more than the ones in the high-performance group because the group was not as structured or organized as other groups. I have felt more relief at the end of a project in a low-performing group and greater satisfaction if the goal was met.

Closing rituals should be a part of every group to give group members a way to celebrate the end of a project and say goodbye. According to Abudi, any group reaching stage 4, Performing, “will keep in touch with each other as they have become a very close-knit group and there will be sadness at separating and moving on to other projects independently.” (Abudi, 2010). The group should have the last meeting to share what they have learned through the project, wish each other good luck as they move onto new tasks, and celebrate their success.

As we work towards our academic goal, many of us have been in several classes together. We have become familiar with names and stories along the way. Although we are not in a “traditional” classroom, I believe bonds are formed all the same. At the end of my Bachelor’s degree, many of us wrote a note to each other in our last class. I must say I was excited to see several of them had moved on to Masters with me. Seeing their names pop up in my classes made me feel more comfortable about taking an online class. Working in groups can be both rewarding and stressful learning to depend on other members of the group, trusting that your way is not always the best way, and understanding that success depends on being able to receive as much as you give.

 

Abudi, G. (2010). The five stages of team development: A case study. Retrieved from: https://www.projectsmart.co.uk/the-five-stages-of-team-development-a-case-study.php

Conflict Resolution

Conflicts at work can be extremely stressful. You may have to work with this person every day or perhaps it is just someone that is in the same building or department. Many of us spend more time per week with our colleagues than we do our families or friends. Whatever the cause conflict can bring stress and make the environment uncomfortable on everyone working around the team members disagreeing. A conflict had been known to fester and consume people that were not first involved.

Time is priceless when dealing with conflict. Talking to someone face to face is the best way to communicate if you are having trouble or disagreement about something. Keeping your frustrations to yourself and not telling others will keep the situation from spreading out of control and more individuals getting involved. As we speak to our co-worker, we must remember to incorporate the 3R’s into the conversation. Respect others be responsive to those who approach you with a situation, and support relationships between co-workers, teachers, families, and children (Chesire, 2007). Another way to come to a solution is to find a compromise and find where both parties can meet in the middle. It may be that after both parties talk a simple adjustment on both sides can clear up the problem ending the situation.

I am not one for conflicts at my workplace. I speak to my co-workers, and I am polite however I do not engage in long conversations. My work keeps me busy when I am at work, and I have no time for gossip. My goal is to live a positive life and give respect to those around me. I do not accept disrespect in my life but will speak to someone that is upset to help them resolve a situation.

Resource

 

Chesire, N. (2007). The 3 R’s:  Gateway to Infant Toddler Learning. Dimensions of Early   Childhood. Volume 35, No. 3

 

 

 

 

 

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Me as a Communicator-The Shocking Facts

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For your blog, this week, think about the similarities and differences between how you evaluated yourself as a communicator and how others evaluated you. What is the one thing that surprised you the most?
Hello everyone, this week the assignment was to perform a self-communication evaluation and then have two people we know to perform the communication evaluation about me. This evaluation was made up of several questions that may depend on situations, and I feel I had to pick the “best” answer. Communication between one person or a group of people will always come with a set of circumstances to be considered before you enter and as you are communicating. Some of these things can be the culture of the persons, the mood, and emotions of the situation, or perhaps how well you know the persons in the conversation. Conveying the message and hearing information being delivered is a dance that takes a lot of practice and many years to perfect. The one thing I found shocking about what all of the data said about my communication was “With little provocation, you might cross the line from “argumentativeness,” which attacks a person’s position or statements, and verbal aggression, which involves personal attacks. I did not feel like I would “personally attack or become verbally aggressive” during a conversation however all the data said that is how I would react in certain situations.
Why?
This is shocking to me because I would like to think I keep my calm in all situations. One of the people that took the survey and we were talking after said: “it’s not what you say with your mouth it’s that face and those looks.” Another said, “you can cut someone down with those eyes and a smile on your face, you’re are the best nice nasty person I have ever seen.” I have discovered through this survey that I must control my face and eyes because no matter how nice I am saying something they are saying something very different.
What other insights about communication did you gain this week? Choose at least two to share with others through your blog and consider how each might inform your professional work and personal life.
This week communication was an interesting topic. I discovered that there are many types of communication and that listening, and body language is two important parts of communication. It does not matter what your words are saying if your body language is saying something else to someone. To ensure there is clear communication I need to be open, focused, have time and be an active listener to the other persons speaking. I need to ensure I am listening by asking questions for clarification, taking notes and repeating back what someone may have said — analyzing the information heard before giving a response and understanding that a meeting is not always about getting one point across but coming to a workable solution for all. I have discovered for myself I have work to do on my communication skills.

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Do you find yourself communicating differently with people from different groups and cultures?

When communicating with people from different groups and cultures, I attempt to speak in a professional tone and listen as they talk. Although I do not understand every culture, I believe it is my responsibility to be respectful to every student and their family. There have been times I found myself speaking to families but not genuinely listening to what they were saying because I could not put aside my dominant cultural beliefs to understand theirs. Through education and intentionality, I have been able to change my way of speaking and listening to others.

If yes, in what ways do you communicate differently?

Now I communicate with respect for the other family. I do not try to push my ideas or beliefs on them. I listen to their concerns and questions, analyze what they are saying, repeat back what I think they want and then respond. I have learned to keep a calm and confident tone of voice is better than getting an emotional closed-off tone of voice. I also discovered the importance of self-reflection has when communicating with others. Taking a step back and doing a self- reflection allows me to recognize any predispositions I may have about this family’s culture.

 

 

Communicated Through Body Language and Facial Expressions

After reading the directions for this assignment, a show my daughter loves quickly popped into my mind to complete this blog post. The show aired on the CW in 2005 and continues currently. The TV series of two brothers following in their father’s footsteps as “hunters.” This brother pair is not hunting deer or wildlife but supernatural beings of many kinds such as demons, monsters, and gods roaming the earth.

Although I currently watch TV with low or no volume due to developing sound sensitivity, it was interesting to observe the nonverbal behaviors the characters in this show was displaying. The way the main characters moved in, stood and grimaced at each other as the interacted you would not think they cared about each other. One character showed more control and is the leader of the duo. He drives the car, seems to lead the way out the door, and move in as he talks to the other character. The other character seems to be the weaker of the two. Listens to what the other character says, is the passenger, and body language is not as strong and bold as the other character. I believe these characters are a team and work well together when hunting although before the “fight” it seems they have a disagreement trying to figure out what to do and who has the best plan to catch the monster. The nonverbal behavior of both characters is high energy, passionate, and willing to put their life on the line to get the job completed.

Going back and watching the episode with volume gave me a different respect of the main characters Dean and Sam. The hunter brothers find jobs to investigate; Dean is the driver of the car because the car belongs to him and his “baby” and he is obsessed with it. Sam is ok with his brother’s obsession with his car and does not mind being the passenger. The brothers do have arguments however watching it with volume shows Sam (whom I thought was the weaker) was a strong character that was able to get Dean to do things his way. This show with and without volume is a very different experience.

For someone who knows the characters in the show well, I am sure they would have been able to follow it with no volume well. My daughter is a huge fan of this show, and I am sure she watches it at night with low to no volume and understands the episode she is watching. Each of the episodes has the same concept of hunting a monster or demon and defeating it at any cost. The main characters brothers Dean and Sam are passionate about this work, and this makes it difficult to read their body language without knowing and understanding their individual style.

 

Competent Communication

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When I think of competent communication my colleague and friend is who will always stand out in my mind. Her collective techniques of listening, pausing, analyzing, jotting notes, and slowly asking questions, pausing, using her famous line “ok, give me a second here” and then processing an answer of epic whit, humor, or sometimes knowledge is amazing. If you did not know her, you would not pick up on the many different steps she is going through before she answers or responds. At times it happens at the speed of light.

I have witnessed her speak to upset parents she turns her body away from her desk to make herself open to them, uncrosses her arms and legs, leans in towards them and sits quietly making eye contact and not interrupting until they are finished with what they have to say. She will take notes and ask them to “hold please” so she can get their information down. I can say in the eleven years I have worked with her I have never witnessed an angry parent leave her office.

As she speaks to anyone, she has statements she uses throughout the conversation such as ok, I see, can you help me understand so I can help you, and we will work through this together. As she speaks to families, she always speaks positive of the students and how must she enjoy them being in the school. She finds good things to about the student and talks about what the family can do to help the school through the situation. Her voice is always calm, and she always smiles and says things to make people laugh no matter how bad the situation is. This makes families love her and feel safe when she is around.

I have always admired her communication skills and how she was able to turn the worse situation into a room full of happy people. It is a talent to keep control of a situation, listen to what someone is saying without interjecting how you feel, and finding positive things about the family that may be “attacking” you. I have found by watching her that in the end, it is better for the child, family, and school if you do.